…asked my sister A who is in her mid twenties. She is back home for Summer holidays. “Answer me, no??”, she nudged raising her voice.
“Ssh…!”, I drew my index finger across the lips asking her not to wake up the sleeping baby and pulled her towards the adjacent room. She watched me heave a sigh of relief when baby D finally curled himself aside for a catnap.
She understandingly apologized with her eyes and whispered, “Alright, tell me now. What’s it like to be a mom?”
None in the world has asked me such a question before. Almost everyone I meet end up inquiring about the kid’s age, developmental milestones, toys we own and the number of words he speaks. For these, I know the answers by heart. The sister, however grills me for something new, which involves digging myself deeper into explaining her the whole point of what I am right now, the things that run in my head, the way I am leaning in and the like.
This is what I said..
The moment you give birth to a child, your life becomes more meaningful.
At the same time, you become more vulnerable to your emotions and other’s opinions.
You begin to think more and fear more. Somewhere along the journey, you’ll learn to straighten things out anyway. You trust your children’s abilities and choose to invest all your dreams in them.
You have your parental insecurities constantly camouflaged with religious beliefs or similar supreme faith.
You dream, make plans for your family and even wish you could add more years to your life span just to watch your great grandchildren grow.
I don’t want to sugar-coat the fact that there will be times when being a mom seems like the hardest thing to do. Especially when you realize you have to look after your kids 24/7 and remain accountable for everything they do.
Most of the days the sun shines bright and you do the adulting stuff just right. But beware, there are also painful days that happen just to test your patience. You’ll either scream your lung out or embrace the mess with grace. All in all, you’ll learn to sail through the whole shebang anyway.
You’ll understand the meaning of unconditional love when you become a mother. You give too much to your kids and still choose not to verbalize anything about it. You become an epitome of sacrifice and the world celebrates you for it (in the name of Mother’s day, LoL).
But deep inside, you know, looking after your own child isn’t a sacrifice at all because you reap your rewards then and there. (Only) you know it. Everytime they master an art or become the person this world is proud of, you know it isn’t just their victory but yours.
Motherhood is a noble responsibility. When we, mothers are aware of the fact that every child is an opportunity to make this world a better place, how amazingly different the next generation would be, don’t you wonder?”
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